I Want To Be Me

Dear Windy, How do you know if you are passing all right? What is the worst thing that has happened to you when you did not pass? How do most people treat you up close when you talk to them? Do most people accept you if they know you are a guy? Can I just be me and if I go out dressed and look pretty good, will people accept me for being me or will they make fun of me or want to beat me? Will cops harass me? What bathroom should I use? Should I get laser beard removal so I can pass easier? Will I ever find a woman to love me or do I have to just date men? Please help, I want to be me. Beverly

Dear Beverly, Where do I begin? You know you are passing if people don't stare and laugh at you. The worst thing ever to happen to me? A woman outed me in a hotel restroom and sicced a security guard on me! Most people treat me like the person I seem to be, because I've gotten pretty good at passing as a woman. If you go out dressed but are obviously a guy, you will probably be OK in Greenwich Village or Castro Street, but not on Main Street USA. Cops will leave you alone unless you do something stupid like use the women's rest room (see above). I can get by with a super close shave. Unless you are gay, do not seek a man to love, search for a woman who can love you for being yourself. Windy